3 Things you should know as the outcast

My mom would tell me as a little girl she would watch me on the play ground jumping from one group to the next trying to play but none of the kids were really welcoming to me being in the group. I don't know how old I was but I had to have been in elementary school. Whether it was the group of cool girls, or the group guys and even the kids with a mixture of personalities. I never fit in. And though growing up it was difficult to identify myself because I was never really fitting with one group in particular I realize now that my identity was never in the people or places I was trying to fit myself into.


I want to encourage any young girl and young woman that you are an individual for a reason. You were set apart from the crowd not to fit in but to stand out. Just like this picture, no matter how much I tried to lean and blend in with the trees I still stood out. That’s the beauty of it. The trees become my background and my accent. I become the centerpiece. This is how our Father created you to be. For you are wonderfully and uniquely made in His eyes. He values you so much and He wants to be the centerpiece of your life.

This particular day at the playground and every day after that was the defining moment that will forever be a pattern of my life.

For those who don’t fit in, here are three things that I learned as the “outcast” growing up.

I was not meant for a box

I was never created to live in a box or in a circle in that matter. I was never meant to be one shape or size. I was meant to adjust, change and rearrange. Think about our own human bodies. As we grow older it is always changing, it is never the same. Many of us try to focus on  perfecting our bodies or making it what it “used to be” however, the reality is that our bodies were never meant to be the same. They were meant to mature and change in a healthy way.

This is so with us in the body of Christ. We are truly not meant to fit in but to stand out. We are to be an individual light that can join with other light to defeat darkness.

Bring others out of darkness into light

Our outcast moments are the best moments to bring others from darkness into the light. It is in our outcast moments that we really understand who are as an individual and we don’t let others define us like many groups do. Think about all the groups in school, the jocks, the nerds, the twerkers, the band squad. These are all labels regardless of if we identify with them or not.

I love getting to know new people and build relationships but what I have realized is that the only true reason that I am in any group or organization is to shine and standout. Not for myself but for our Father so that someone will be drawn to know what is different about me. I can talk on this forever but lets move on to the third thing..

It comes with a cost

Now, I will never tell you the good without telling you about the bad. Being set apart comes with a cost. It hurts and it sucks. Some call it the isolation period or the waiting period. Moreover, it is that period of time that you spend growing into a deeper understanding of who you are and who He is inside of you. Furthermore, let me ask you this…What is refueling you? What is the source of your light? Every light has some kind of power source. Right?! A light bulb is just a vessel until it is screwed into a light fixture. A candle or even a lighter is just a vessel with out the fire being ignited and lit.

Sometimes our light gets dim. And all the holy sanctified church saints would say at this point, '“how dare you say that this little light of mine is not going to shine.” Lol well it is true. Sometimes we get to points in our walk with Christ that our light gets dim or it completely goes out. It can be because we have been unscrewed therefore we need to tighten some screws in our mind. Or we might just need a refill or charge. I am not even going to answer these question for you because I want you to think about it and tell me your thoughts below. Your answer might not be the same as mine so I want you to answer it. Actually, this is my “Let’s Flourish Together” questions for today… Let’s talk about it. I will start…

Let’s Flourish Together

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below.

  • What is refueling you? What is the source of your light?

  • How is your source helping you in this time of isolation, waiting or being an outcast?

  • What have you learned today in this post?

Ericka’s Response:

Well, considering I have been an outcast my whole life and I have had many waiting periods, I have grown to learn that God is my refuel. He has brought tools like people, devotions and things of that nature to help me along the way. I have realized that a lot of the times those things are just that, tools. In 1 Corinthians 7:31, the bible states that the things of this world will pass away and so for me it puts things into reality that everything that I have is not mine. No matter how much I earned it or worked for it, I will never allow it to rule my mind into thinking that those things are the direct source of my joy, peace, stability, etc. The source is my Father. Wow, I just went on a whole different tangent lol. I was saying all of that to day that those tools help refuel me but my source is God. Therefore ultimately God is my ULTIMATE refuel and source. He has and is still helping me to understand how much he values me. I am understanding that God does not need me to bring glory to His kingdom but He wants me to be a part of it. So in my time of isolation I am realizing my value and worth in His kingdom and on this earth.

Now it is your turn to tell me your thoughts! Go!

XOXO, Ericka Warnita


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