2018 Tried It But… Goodbye and Hello

Looking back at 2018 and to the years prior, I was tested a lot. It felt like I have been tested more than I even have been before. I received opposition from everywhere but regardless of the opposition I can truly say that God is so faithful to what He says He will do. I thank God for His strength because if I was without Him I think that I would be in a different place.

If you would have asked me last year at this time if I thought that I could see myself modeling, competing for pageants and all of the other projects that I am putting together, I wouldn’t have believed you. I would have laughed so hard that I probably would have farted. TMI?! Just being honest. *Shrugs Shoulders.*

Truthfully! I never have been the person to be on the stage or be in the spotlight. Growing up I was always pushed to be a leader or to be in the spotlight but I never desired it. EVER! I would either cry on stage or I would be shaking in the knees like a little baby giraffe trying to stand up for the first time.

But God. And the way that He does what He does has positioned me in such a way that I am reaching levels that I have never reached before. Or even thought about reaching. 2017 tried it and 2018 brought it. BUT 2019 I will conquer this thing through faith and hearing. I have to say that when you stay faithful to what seems like God's wacky, unexplainable plan He will show you the glory in all the unexplained events.

Stay diligent and encouraged my sister and brother! Better is yet to come. Trust me. As fast as you say hello to something, be just as quick to say goodbye. Not every thought, that comes to your mind is meant to stay. Be careful to fester in thoughts that are not edifying, that are terrorizing and that keep you from growing into that person you are meant to be. Faith goes by hearing and hearing through the Word of God, Roman 10:17.

Goodbye to the old and in with the new!

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

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Lets FLOURISH TOGETHER!

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. Please make sure that you comment below because I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below. I really love to get to know my readers and subscribers.


  1. How have you used your faith during this year of 2018?

  2. What are some things that you must start saying goodbye to in 2018 and saying hello to in 2019?

  3. Do you need prayer for anything that you are believing for? Comment below what it is.

My Season Of Faith and Hearing

Sometimes when I hear from God I try not to question it nowadays. I just do it. Sometimes the word I hear may make no sense. Other times, it may turn me in a direction I never thought I would ever have to take. Nonetheless, I have learned that it is best I take His steps instead of my own.

Have you ever had a moment that you asked God to do something and he does it but not in the way you would like for it to be done? Like, your idea and the picture in your mind was totally different than what He is presenting you. It’s like how some of us are when we go to a painting class. Our picture seemingly is supposed to be just like the instructors yet somehow out picture looks totally different with its squiggly lines that do not mirror his/ her perfectly straight line.

Well, lets just say that I know about this all too well.

I am currently in the process of moving and what an exciting but somewhat exhausting experience. This will be my first time ever living by myself without another human being and I am so ready. Not in a sense that I am rushing but I feel like this time will help me grow in so many areas of my life.

When I was praying to God before I began looking for places to stay (which took awhile for me to do) I asked God to take me to a place where I can truly worship and serve him. Be careful for what you ask Him for because you just might get it, in full throttle mode. Well, He did just that but not in the way that I thought He would. He has completely brought me to ISOLATION. DUN DUN DUHHHHH!!! *Scary music playing in the background*.

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First, let me say out of over 60 apartments that I looked into the one that I chose was truly the perfect one for me. It was in my price range and accommodated everything that I needed. It was actually the first apartment complex that I visited but I didn’t want to jump into signing any contract until I had something to compare it to. I just knew that there had to be better for me.

Isn’t that just like us? When God provides us with His best for us, for whatever reason, we are never satisfied and go looking for more. Lord, help us to be able and willing to receive what you have for us. Literally, all of the other apartments were disasters, whether it was in customer service or appearance. There was only two other apartments that I was really considering however one of them was too expensive for my set budget and the other was so out of the way from my typical day-to-day travel that I would have been spending a lot more time and money from just traveling. Now with that being said I don’t think there was any doubt left for me to question where God was leading me. I was ducking and dodging this particular apartment for personal reasons but I couldn’t run away from it.

God has been trying to bring me to an isolated area in my life where I can solely focus on Him and all I want to say is GRRRRR! Truly, because it honestly sucks! Not having my own apartment specifically, but the sacrifice of giving up some things that I don’t necessarily want to give up in this process of moving. For instance, my past, toxic mindsets, relationships, and even cherishable moments. But in order for me to grow in this season I must let go of fear and anxiety. I must relish in the “unknown”. By the way, the unknown, is a great place to be as I have been told by the Lord. (Personal thoughts: Should I make this topic a blog post?")

Anywho, God knows me better than I know myself and that is the same for you. He yearns for your attention and will allow things to happen in your life for you to realize you really cannot do this life without Him. He won’t compete with anything in your life and He won’t even compete with you. He wants ALLLLLLL of you.

Sis, if you are in an isolation period as I am and we all have to go through it in different stages and phases of our lives please take it from me and embrace this time full force. You cannot go wrong doing so. Learn yourself and grow in yourself, not selfishly but mindfully of who the Spirit is inside of you.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita



Let’s Flourish Together

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below.

  1. Please share this with a friend. I was just reading back over this to make minor edits and it blessed my heart once again.

  2. Is God calling you into an isolation period? What are some things stopping you from going into this time if you are hesitating jumping into this season?

  3. Tell me a verse or two that will be your foundation bible verse during this season?

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When Some Things Just Don't Happen Like You Planned It.

Geez la weez! Man, what a week it has been. I tell ya! As some of you know I was supposed to be walking in a really major fashion show featuring international designers. Now you an imagine my devastation when I found out the night before at 11 o’ clock that I will no longer be walking in this show. Yes! I was notified by the director who told me that I will no longer be in the show because the designers decided to go with other models who were taller than me.

Can you say it is a doggy dog world?! Oh yes. it can be very doggy dog. And I am not going to lie I was not too happy. In the moment, I acted like it didn’t matter but honey when I tell you that I was ready to just show up and say something like, “Do you not know who I am.” I was ready to go off and not in the most Christian way possible. 1 Corinthians 13 talks about love but this girl right here was not having it. Thank God, I didn’t respond irrationally or disrespectfully because of all of the emotion inside of me.

I thought that I was headed to what would be the true, BIG start to my modeling career. It was stripped from me right in front of my eyes. It made me question everything about myself and even doubt my abilities. I began to think that maybe this modeling thing is just not for me. Maybe, I am BIG trippen, trippen. Like literally, who am I is the question that negatively rang in my head as I constantly read the message from the director denying my this opportunity of a life time. I felt like nobody. But can we all say together, ‘Not my will but your will be done’!

I had to realize that my plan is never the plan that I should be following. My plan was to go to this fashion show, kill it and be invited to be a feature model for one of the designers that specifically designed clothes for celebrity and artist John Legend. Man, I had it all planned out in my mind. Proverbs 16:9 states that in our hearts we plan our course, but the Lord establishes our steps. How much did this verse became a reality for me? Big time! Though I had plans, God has other plans for me. I guarantee, I am going to come back on here and write a story of why my plan was not the plan that I needed to lean on. Just wait for it, because I surely am.

We should never lean on our own understanding but lean on the One that loves us enough to direct our paths in the way that they ought to go. Trust me sis, I understand. Sometimes, I want to get it! I want to know everything. I need to know the plan and have it written out in front of me and then it needs to follow through just like how I envisioned it. But I have learned, sometimes the hard way, that sometimes it is best to have an understanding of your plan but follow His plan. You will always come out with better results. Trust me, really. Proverbs 3:5-6; Proverbs 19:21

BTW, just a side note, I saw pictures from the show and it was beautiful. Very nicely done by all of the designers and models! Man, it was beautiful!

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

Let’s Flourish Together

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below.

  1. How have you have you been following God’s plan for your life?

  2. What is something that you can do to go with the flow and lean on His plan instead of your own?

  3. What have you learned reading this post?

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Compromise Myself

Not many people know this but at some points of my career modeling I have gotten many messages and offers from people who want me to model or play a part in their film but I turn them down. Most people would look at me and say, "Girl you must have lost your mind! That is money! Just because you are wearing no clothes in that photoshoot or you are cursing in that scene does not make you who are you." That is what they all say but when I see things like people bashing someone as beautiful as Meagan Good just because of her past roles, I will just look at you with stupidity because people will be people. Let’s just be honest.

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If you followed my Miss Houston journey, you would know that I decided to sacrifice not wearing a bikini to show others that you are more than just your body. You are a human being with beauty inside that radiants far greater than your beauty on the outside. Let me say this, I love people embracing their bodies. Love your curves girl, hug them and embrace them baby! Don't get me wrong I love the confidence I see in women. However,  as a woman who has always had a small frame that was considered on many peoples radars as attractive or has the potential to be attractive, I never felt the need to show my body. The only time I did was when I was in college. Truth be told, I honestly lost my dignity going to the club just to get a quick fix of attention because my body was banging or qualified as being “bangable” because I wore clothes that were not clothes at all. I might as well went to the club with no clothes on. Let’s just be honest. But, nonetheless, I would always go back home to my little apartment unfulfilled and felt less desirable. Lawd, if y'all could see my pictures from my college days! Smh!

I always remember my mom telling me to never compromise myself.  I used to get so annoyed when my mom would tell me to go back upstairs and put on some different shorts or clothes growing up. Lol oh geez, my teenage years were not the easiest. That’s when all the little mood swings started to kick in.

To this day, when I look at pictures from my younger days I see all these girls in short booty shorts and me with the long shorts or dress that hung off of my little frame which forced me to stand out from everyone. Little did I know that it helped shape my mindset in knowing that I was more than my body. How grateful I am for my Mami.

I remember once I started dating guys, I would tell myself all the time that I was more than my body and I desired a relationship where a man didn’t merely look at my outward appearance but saw me for the woman inside. Any young girl or woman out there struggling with you body image please know that you are more than just your body. There is so much beauty that is inside of you that is waiting to be discovered by yourself and others around you that can appreciate you for you and not based on your physical appearance. It might have taken a lot of guts for some of those girl on the pageant stage to wear a bikini in-front of everyone but it took a lot of guts for me to stand out in a one piece and still walk in confidence regardless if I looked different than majority of the girls.

You are beautiful just the way you are. Small, tall, curvious, petite, short, dimples and stretch marks and all the above. You are beautiful. 

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

 

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3 Things you should know as the outcast

My mom would tell me as a little girl she would watch me on the play ground jumping from one group to the next trying to play but none of the kids were really welcoming to me being in the group. I don't know how old I was but I had to have been in elementary school. Whether it was the group of cool girls, or the group guys and even the kids with a mixture of personalities. I never fit in. And though growing up it was difficult to identify myself because I was never really fitting with one group in particular I realize now that my identity was never in the people or places I was trying to fit myself into.

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I want to encourage any young girl and young woman that you are an individual for a reason. You were set apart from the crowd not to fit in but to stand out. Just like this picture, no matter how much I tried to lean and blend in with the trees I still stood out. That’s the beauty of it. The trees become my background and my accent. I become the centerpiece. This is how our Father created you to be. For you are wonderfully and uniquely made in His eyes. He values you so much and He wants to be the centerpiece of your life.

This particular day at the playground and every day after that was the defining moment that will forever be a pattern of my life.

For those who don’t fit in, here are three things that I learned as the “outcast” growing up.

I was not meant for a box

I was never created to live in a box or in a circle in that matter. I was never meant to be one shape or size. I was meant to adjust, change and rearrange. Think about our own human bodies. As we grow older it is always changing, it is never the same. Many of us try to focus on  perfecting our bodies or making it what it “used to be” however, the reality is that our bodies were never meant to be the same. They were meant to mature and change in a healthy way.

This is so with us in the body of Christ. We are truly not meant to fit in but to stand out. We are to be an individual light that can join with other light to defeat darkness.

Bring others out of darkness into light

Our outcast moments are the best moments to bring others from darkness into the light. It is in our outcast moments that we really understand who are as an individual and we don’t let others define us like many groups do. Think about all the groups in school, the jocks, the nerds, the twerkers, the band squad. These are all labels regardless of if we identify with them or not.

I love getting to know new people and build relationships but what I have realized is that the only true reason that I am in any group or organization is to shine and standout. Not for myself but for our Father so that someone will be drawn to know what is different about me. I can talk on this forever but lets move on to the third thing..

It comes with a cost

Now, I will never tell you the good without telling you about the bad. Being set apart comes with a cost. It hurts and it sucks. Some call it the isolation period or the waiting period. Moreover, it is that period of time that you spend growing into a deeper understanding of who you are and who He is inside of you. Furthermore, let me ask you this…What is refueling you? What is the source of your light? Every light has some kind of power source. Right?! A light bulb is just a vessel until it is screwed into a light fixture. A candle or even a lighter is just a vessel with out the fire being ignited and lit.

Sometimes our light gets dim. And all the holy sanctified church saints would say at this point, '“how dare you say that this little light of mine is not going to shine.” Lol well it is true. Sometimes we get to points in our walk with Christ that our light gets dim or it completely goes out. It can be because we have been unscrewed therefore we need to tighten some screws in our mind. Or we might just need a refill or charge. I am not even going to answer these question for you because I want you to think about it and tell me your thoughts below. Your answer might not be the same as mine so I want you to answer it. Actually, this is my “Let’s Flourish Together” questions for today… Let’s talk about it. I will start…

Let’s Flourish Together

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below.

  • What is refueling you? What is the source of your light?

  • How is your source helping you in this time of isolation, waiting or being an outcast?

  • What have you learned today in this post?

Ericka’s Response:

Well, considering I have been an outcast my whole life and I have had many waiting periods, I have grown to learn that God is my refuel. He has brought tools like people, devotions and things of that nature to help me along the way. I have realized that a lot of the times those things are just that, tools. In 1 Corinthians 7:31, the bible states that the things of this world will pass away and so for me it puts things into reality that everything that I have is not mine. No matter how much I earned it or worked for it, I will never allow it to rule my mind into thinking that those things are the direct source of my joy, peace, stability, etc. The source is my Father. Wow, I just went on a whole different tangent lol. I was saying all of that to day that those tools help refuel me but my source is God. Therefore ultimately God is my ULTIMATE refuel and source. He has and is still helping me to understand how much he values me. I am understanding that God does not need me to bring glory to His kingdom but He wants me to be a part of it. So in my time of isolation I am realizing my value and worth in His kingdom and on this earth.

Now it is your turn to tell me your thoughts! Go!

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

 

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Back to the Basics

I’ve been taken back. Taken back to the basics. What is Her Nature? I have been challenged lately to answer this question. Have you ever wondered what Her Nature is? Well let’s talk about it.

I have answered this question before but I have really had to think about it lately because honestly I had to ask myself am I portraying myself as Her Nature. Do I see a young woman who has been revived, refreshed, repurposed, and relived. I had to decline and write off my own question because I couldn’t answer it truthfully. What is worse than you lying to yourself.

Some of you all know a little bit of my testimony. To those who don’t know, I was in college doing the college life to the max. And I mean to the MAX! Well at least what felt like the max for me anyways. It was not until my last week in college before graduation that I was sitting in my bed weeping in tears because though I gained a couple of new friends who are dear to my heart I felt empty and alone. I sat in my bed feeling helpless and torn down. This was a place I knew way too well and it kept me bound. I felt unusable, unwanted and betrayed. I held on to things in my heart like bitterness and resentment that made me so unhealthy. However, despite my state, right there in my bed I encountered my first true known experience with My Father. In that moment, I surrender and gave my life to Christ. Literally y’all right there in my bed! No choir, no music, no Pastor. Nobody. Just me and God.

After that time, I found myself in a place of discovery. Discovering who Ericka is in this new beginning of my life. Because as many of us know once we give our lives to Christ we are born again into new creations. All old things are passed away and gone and the new us is here in our present -2 Corinthians 5:17-18. But what did that really mean to me? How was I made anew and how was I refreshed, repurposed so that I may be able to relive my life? That is where Her Nature came into my life.

What was my nature, her nature, your nature? What makes you who you are? 2 Peter 1:3-4 states His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. So what does that mean??? We have it already y’all! We have the ability through our Father to experience so much more to our lives through the knowledge of Him. We have the power to be all He created us to be to experience His glory and goodness.

Wow! This is blowing my mind just reading this to myself after having this as Her Nature’s themed scripture for the past three years!

Now, tell me...

Lets Flourish Together:

These are questions and devotions that will challenge our minds and help us to:

FLOurIsh = Freely shine Light on OUR ISH (aka Issues)

So lets take a look together on how we can light up those dark areas we call issues so that we will be able to flourish with one another. Please make sure that you comment below because I love to hear your thoughts and your stories. This is a judge free zone (we are not in the court house) and I will be quick to block any haters that judge you. So please comment below. I really love to get to know my readers and subscribers.

  1. In you own words, what does Her Nature mean?

  2. What does 2 Peter 1:3-4 mean to you?

  3. How are you living in our Father’s Divine Nature?

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

 

#SHE 31: The Woman Within

I am not going to lie, there are a lot of things that make me question whether or not I am truly a virtuous woman. I used to always live by expectations that people place upon me based on this verse, Proverbs 31, or any other scale that they have ready to rate me on. Sometimes people place expectations on you that you never intended to be placed upon you. And other times you place expectations on yourself that were never meant to be placed. In actuality you are human, and because you will not always meet EVERY ONE of those expectations. It just won’t happen. And guess what, that is okay.

Am I really virtuous or is it an illusion?

This is the question that I prelude with today for myself and this is a question that I ask you tomorrow after you seek yourself a little bit and further more.

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Sometimes we place unfair judgement on ourselves and others when we read or think about the Proverbs 31 woman. She is someone that many of us admire and want to mirror but let’s be honest, you won’t get it right every day. There will be days that you don’t cook and there will be days that you won’t always do good. However, nonetheless, no matter how short you may fall to this woman, you are still a virtuous woman. Whether you realize it or not. You were born as a virtuous child but were tainted by the lackluster world that we live in. Let’s not let the world, people and situations dim the very woman that you are. Some of us have to close some doors in our lives and unlock others in order to really realize our virtue that is deep down inside. And many of us have to stop listening to what he said or she said in order to see our virtue.

Could it be true that sometimes we allow other’s judgement or even the judgement of ourselves to blur the truth of our being and existence? That maybe, if we were not so hard on ourselves in passing judgement from one day to the next that maybe we can see who we really are.

There is more to you. You don’t need people to tell you that. You don’t need validation from a person, cars, school or anything in this world. You must know what you hold within. You must know the woman within.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

Let’s talk about it and FLOURISH:

  1. What is virtue in your own definition?

  2. What have you allowed to convince you that you are not virtuous?

  3. How has this post helped you see the woman within you?







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Changing My Diet

I have not watched What the Health on Netflix or any other documentary that talks about how unhealthy I eat everyday. How I am practically killing myself by eating the food that I used to love . But you know what I have watched. I have watched my diet and I am not talking about the diet concerning my body. I am talking about my diet pertaining to my mind.

Just like we consume foods that can run us down and make us unhealthy it is the same with the mind. No longer can we eat food that is too sugary for our bodies that causes diabetes and no longer can we eat high sodium foods that cause blood pressure. can no longer do it. We may have consumed negative mindsets, laziness, and toxicity. But now it is time for a change. It is time to CHANGE YOUR DIET. You cannot afford to watch your mental health to deteriorate before your eyes but not do anything about it.

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You must be careful with who you allow to feed your mind. Your mouth will begin to taste those very words. Your taste buds send signals to your brain signaling for your body on the sweetness, bitterness or spiciness of that food. It causes you body to desire that food or reject it depending on your tolerance. This is the same for the words that you allow to enter into you whether they are from your own mouth or from others. Those words will be sent to your mind. When the signal goes to you mind the fatty food or “negative words” will begin to process in your belly and clutter around your heart suffocating it from its very existence. It kills your from the inside out without you even noticing it. YOU must change your diet. It is time to change your diet.

Let’s Talk About It:

  1. Do you need to change your “mental” diet? What are some ways that you can change you diet?

  2. If you have already noticed the toxicity that you are allowing to enter your body, why are you allowing it to continue to fill you?

  3. If you are currently struggling while changing your diet, what is stopping you from changing it?

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

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I Just Might Be Ugly.

Social media has a way of making you feel ugly. Don't you agree? Like, the things that you might have been taught about loving yourself or seeing yourself as beautiful no longer applies. It is depleted in an instant. Just one ounce of imperfection shown on social media and people go innnnn! Pointing out all your flaws and all. Even those closet to you may say something and view it as a way of helping you out but instead they don't see the effects that it may have on your internally based on the way that they say it. It actually has a way of magnifying the imperfections that you have.

I recently was featured in my first music video and there is one scene in the video where my eye looked so lazy. I cringe every time I viewed the video. All I can think about was how unattractive it was. How am I trying to be viewed as attractive in the video but my eyes are spazing out right in front of my face and all the viewers watching it? 

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I instantly became insecure. I felt like I was not going to be able to take pictures anymore. I was not going to be able to pursue modeling. I would not be viewed as beautiful. I mean it really started to bother me so much that when someone was talking to me I would look to the side and turn my head because I felt like they were going to stare at the fact that my eye was lazy.

But then, I realized. I am beautiful. Lazy eye and all! I am beautiful! And even if my eye gets lazier or drooper, I am still beautiful. I realized that I will never be this picture perfect person. Everything that everyone else wants to see is not the reality that is really seen. This is not only with my physical appearance but this goes with my personality, my attitude, m beliefs and dreams, and the way that I life my life. I am me, whether that is seen as perfection or imperfection.

Truly I realized that if I was this perfect person that had no flaws how would I ever be able to impact God’s people like He intended for me to do. I can relate in my imperfection. I can cry with another women who looks at them self as less than. I can truly be me without the pressure or the unrealistic expectations. I came to the conclusions that people can love me flaws and all or don't love me at all. This pertains to my outer beauty but also the beauty within me. This includes my thoughts, ideas, opinions and truths. I am me.

You are YOU too! Society and even the people closet to you will tell you that you must be a certain way but always remember that what you feel in your heart is what truly will shine among the societal clutter.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

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The Foundation on Which You Stand.

Seasons change. Don't you agree? Fall turns to Winter. And Winter turns into Spring and then Spring rolls into Summer. And with every season comes something that we enjoy and something that we may dread. And sometimes, even something that we fear. Like hurricane season! It is a season that has people along the coast taking the necessary precautions to board up their houses, and purchase boats and generators because you never know when the next storm will creep on land.

In each of our lives, seasons can bring fear. It can be scary because it is change. You might not have that one thing that you can lean on like a house that was  unprotected and devastated by a storm. Never the less no matter what happens to a house, one thing that I do notice is that with every storm the one thing that does hold is its foundation. The walls might break apart and fall down. The water might swallow the existence of the foundation but it still sits there waiting for you to build upon it again.

In every season you may lose important people in your life, you may lose the building blocks to your destiny but you will never lose the foundation within you soul. Not matter how much damage is done to you in every season there is still something that will keep you grounded to build upon again. 

What is your foundation and is your foundation solid enough to stand upon?

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For me, my foundation is my faith. It is the only thing that has never lead me in the wrong direction even when I doubted the direction or others doubted it for me. It has always been there in every season to help me build and rebuild everything that I once lost. My hopes, dreams, aspirations, love, loved ones. These are all things that I once lost but regained every season with plenty more to build upon as the years pass along.

Embrace your season even in the fear.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita #HerNature


You guys know the drill! Comment below and tell me your thoughts. Is there anything you are afraid of as you embark a new season. What is that one thing that keeps you hopeful and does not allow fear to dominate your thoughts?


You and I are a Force to Reckon With.

Recently, I was told (and I paraphrase) Ericka, you have done so many great things in your life. You have done some really, big things! Don't think that you are just here because you are not just here. 

I sat back and thought.

I think many times we take the little things for granted. We apply so much pressure on ourselves based on influential people in our lives and sometimes our own expectations that we beat ourselves up like a dead horse. Not trying to desensitize the horse, just trying to say that we are beating ourselves up in a useless way.

As I began to think and list all of the things that I have done in my adult life I only thought about the things that most people see without me telling them. However, as I listed away, my friend combated every thought with a more positive one. It was weird to me but life changing:


ME: Well, I am a blogger.

Him:  You are a blogger that made your own website, with your own brand and you created\ your own newsletters. Many people can't do that. You created a name for yourself and you have a good following.

Me: I am just a model.

Him: You are one of the best models I know that is now signed and being recognized in some modeling platforms that many models will never touch.


...And the list goes on and on. I didn't want to spend too much time listing my list but wanted to give you a glimpse of how surface I was being.

As my mind hung on ever word he spoke I began to think one thought:

I am a force to reckon with. *snap, snap and tilts head*

The old Ericka would have thought that she should would never be in conference rooms with top Administration and Lawyers as a 26 year old. And not just as an intern but as an employee who is working on a piloting a project for the company. 

Th old Ericka would have also believed that she should not be featured a music video from an international artist or be invited to walk in a fashion show from designers from different parts of the world. However, this Ericka, the new and improved Ericka proclaims that she is truly a force to reckon with. That she deserves all that is given to her. Not because she is perfect but because she truly works hard to put effort into those things that she wants even if expectations are not met. And guess what?! I believe the same for you. That you are deserving of everything that comes your way. Keep walking as you Love, keep being you!

Never let the negativity of your life overshadow the great person that you are. Because you are a great person! I think this weekend I realized that more than ever as I went to Dallas for a birthday celebration. Life is about taking risk, being you and loving everything about the ride. No one can determine that for you. Only you can. Life is too short to have your panties in a bunch just because of the feelings that you have pertaining to your expectations. Feelings are truly temporary, so don't lean on them.

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Lean on the simple fact that you ARE somebody and don't ever let life or anyone tell you differently. Honey, you are going to conquer mountains and cross valleys making it to the other side. You will soar like an eagle and growl like a lion or a lioness. You are the epitome of YOU. You are Her Nature.

XOXO, Her Nature

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Choosing to live YOUnique

Find YOUR nature and follow it.

I lived. And I mean, I really lived. I went to college and did the party thing. I drank and baked (not really, but really), and I lurked and twerked. I wore clothes that were only meant for two things and two things only. Attract guys and fit in with the crowd. I mean, I am a person that likes to be in the background. Right? So why not be like everyone else so that I could seep behind the curtain of lies and deceit that I was feeding myself and everyone around me. The lies that I told myself everyday I looked in the mirror. The lie to forget who you are and who you were meant to be. 

No matter how much I tried to be someone I was not, it never seemed to stick for some reason. Friendships that were toxic to my well-being never lasted. A relationship that killed my inner being was demolished by words that pushed me closer to my death bed. And drunkened nights drinking beer, Ciroc bottles and wine was the tissue to my tears that flowed that no one could see behind my crescent smile.

Sometimes we can be our worst enemies. And yes, I said that plural for a reason. Many time we have many things that we allow ourselves to turn against ourselves. We change ourselves. It can be good changes or it can be negative changes. I guess you can tell from this blog post that my change was one that was negative.

 Never allow yourself to stop you from being YOUnique. You were meant to standout from everyone else. If not, then you would have a replica or doppelgänger running around this earth. Even identical twins have slight differences that set them apart. Whether that is a mole that is misplaced or their personalities are the least of a mirror imagine of one another.

So BE who YOU were created to be. I lost myself and was able to find myself again. That nerdy girl who loves reading books, laughs just because, and writes words that flow lyrically into her heart. That is me. Who are you?!

XOXO, Her Nature

FORgiveGET Series Part 1

Ever fell like forgiving someone is the hardest thing to do in this world. No matter how much you try you just can't get over what they did to you or maybe even what you did to yourself. Check out this video to see the first part of my FORgiveGET series as I discuss what forgive means. Stay tuned for more of the series in the future.

XOXO, Her Nature

I Am The Blame and I Cannot Rewrite What Happened

Wow! Can you imagine looking your enemy right in the face just to realize that the enemy you were looking at was YOU yourself. Seriously, one of the worst feelings ever! You are the reason the relationship failed, you are the reason you didn't get the college scholarship or the job your heart desired. 

There is only one person behind the scenes operating the show and that is YOU. Yes, YOU, and nobody else. And you find yourself at a lost for words because once you finally get that reality check, BAMMM, you have become speechless because you can't believe what is happening right in front of your eyes. You are the blame. You surely can't rewrite the past. If you could, BOY, tell me how because there are a whole "Santa Clause" list of things that I would love to change. But, seriously...

So what now?! Because like I said, you surely can't rewrite the past. 

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Well my friend, I have learned that it is never too late to rewrite a wrong even after it happens. You might not be able to rewrite the past but your past can be rewritten. Let’s take a look at it.

Reflect on the times that you write something in pen. Sometimes I incidentally misspell a word. How many of you try and re-spell the word by correcting your spelling by retracing the correct spelling over the previous written word. I do this most of the time because I refuse to buy whiteout. Does anyone else do this besides me? Does it come out pretty or pretty ugly?! Mine comes out worse than it originally started, usually. 

Now let’s think of a tattoo. If you got a tattoo and it did not come out the way that you wanted it to you or maybe you got a tattoo while you were dating someone that you are no longer dating, you probably went to an artist that can cover it up with another design. I assume that you invested money and time into researching an artist that will make you tattoo look like a masterpiece and not another mistake like your previous tattoo. Right?

Well I want to encourage you. Your mistake can be rewritten with the right person. Notice that I stated earlier that YOU cannot rewrite a wrong or your past but God can. Just like when we try and rewrite or mistakes with a pen, it ends up looking messy or maybe we over step our boundaries. We try and do everything that we physically can to fix the issues that were caused but realize that we make it more messier than it was intended to be. Nevertheless with God, just like the tattoo artist is to the tattoo, the past situations, relationships or faults that you made a mess of can be changed into a masterpiece. From experience, I know that God can change all things wrong and make them right. 

Stay encouraged boo and know that all things can be perfected in the eyes of God. 2 Corinthians 5:17

Comment and tell me your thoughts below. Make sure to stay tuned for my next blog post that will be talking about What YOU Should Know About Yourself When You Are The One To Blame.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

Dear God, I am tired...

Dear God,

Sometime life is exhausting. I mean straight up exhausting, like the Houston sun that beams on the back of my neck on a bright, summer day. Life has thrown so many curve balls and sometimes I question you if you really love me because I don't believe that you would put me through such hurt like this. Why is all of this happening? Why, why, WHY?!

Sister, I want to encourage you today. I don't know who you are but I know your pain trust me. There was a time where I believed in God but my life continued to spiral from one thing to another over and over again. I could never get a break and I had so many sleepless nights wondering when the pain would be over. Nevertheless, I am glad that I continued to press forward. I continued to believe and guess what? I reaped the benefits of the little faith that I did have.

I am reminded of the story of the women who was bleeding for twelve years found in book of Matthew, Mark, Luke of the Bible. This women suffered a great deal over the twelve years. Regardless of her pain, hurt and sufferings, she pressed her way through the crowd of people that was not only crowding around Jesus but they were pressing themselves against him. Each and every one of them wanted to follow Jesus and I am sure many of them had needs that they desired to be healed by Jesus. But how could the women touch Jesus with all of the commotion going on around her and all the people thonged around Jesus? She pressed, she believed and she was desperate to be healed. Are you?

I was once like this women. Desperate for a change. Desperate for a healing of my heart and it was not until I pressed forward in the crowd of doubt, uncertainty, and lack of understanding that I began to understand, I began to change, and I began to heal from the inside out.

I encourage you to press sis and believe that truly everything is working for your good in Jesus Name, Amen!

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

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The one thing that brings me joy!

You are a flower soaring amongst flowers ready to be captured by the sun rays. Grow baby grow! Reach for the light shining higher than the sun because your only limitations are the ones that you establish within yourself. 

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There is one thing that brings joy into my life. Yes, ONE major  joyful encounter that showers and trickles down to bring joy into every situation that I am in like rain on a perfectly sunny day. It is the one thing that has nourished my roots so that I am able to grown into, well, #HerNature. The one thing that made me, ME! One day I was talking to my best friend and sobbing in tears because I had this feeling that I was starting to drift away from that one joy in my life. And that is a pure encounter with God. The "Ericka" that would wake up singing in the morning with this major, half moon shaped smile pressed upon her face was no longer there. The smile that would cut through every situation that I would face and would have a boomerang effect on my life bouncing me back to joy, peace and understanding faster than SpongeBob would ever get to work lol. Actually, more like, faster than the speed of light. The bounce back is REAL y'all!  I remember I could hear songs like Amazing Grace and Reckless Love in the back of my throat but it did not want to spew out like a overly shaken soda bottle. It was like my lips were sown shut.

So how did I get back to that place of pure joy?

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I began to do more than read my devotionals in the morning and serve at church. I did more than listen to pastors and ministers on Youtube. I stopped spending time liking and commenting pictures on Instagram and Facebook and began to spend more intimate time liking GOD (more like loving God) and commenting on the pictures of the life God has given me and will give me. More importantly, I stopped listening to myself and I began to listen to him. Truth be told, I can talk to Him all day but if I don't take out time to listen to Him then how will I ever know what He truly desires for my life. How would I know where he wants me to be positioned for that breakthrough or  how would I be able to speak in love to a friend who just cursed me out? Girl, I am telling you right now, a WHOLE Airekah would come out and trust me when I say that you don't want to meet her. She is the girl behind closed doors that we never want to meet. The word says that I know the thoughts that I have toward you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope Jeremiah 29:11. So if God know thoughts about me that I don't even know that are peaceful and not evil then I should take heed in his words. Right?

God, my prayer is that we continue to press toward you. That Father, we continue to grow in the realization that our lives are truly not about ourselves but it as ALL about you. Every personal contact, every job opportunity, any school grounds our feet step on or platform that we use will be seen in our eyes as an opportunity to bring glory to your name. Daddy, be our eyes, be our hands, and be our feet. Lead us to the places where you would want us to go. Be the lamp upon our feet and the bright light upon our path so that we may stray away from your path Psalms 119:105. And even if we do begin to stray God your light is shining so bright on my feet and on the path that we will not be able to ignore it. We will continually be drawn to you day-in and day-out.  Father help us to see that every relationship is not an act of selfish desires of wanting a friend or a companion yet it is a way that we are to unselfishishly grow with on another and encounter a power that is unseen and that power is you. As we continue to press toward you we ask that you grace us with your peace that that surpasses all understanding and guard our mind and hearts so that we will not fall in discouragement and confusion, in Jesus name, Amen.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

That Time That They Tried To Silence Me.

Today I road around. Not because I didn't have anything else to do or because I was bored but I just felt the need to ride around. I was headed to workout and took a detour because my mind was full of consuming thoughts that would have come between me and every machine I tried to touch at the gym. So, I was driving in my car for a good hour and a half until I convinced myself to go home. As I filtered through all of my thoughts one thought at a time one specific thought keep circling itself into my mind:

I will not be silenced.

People have always told me, why are you dressed up? Why do you dress like that? Why are you laughing so loud? You are so country, you should learn to speak properly. Why do you cry all of the time? You are too nice and you give to others too much. These are all things that, as the years have passed me by, I have allowed to silence my speech. These comments may seem very small to many of you all, but for me after hearing it for an ample amount of time it began to shape the way I approached every part of my life. And not in an positive and impactful way.

Long story short, I began to allow the words of others to silence the way that I felt, the way that I dressed, the way that I cared for others and even the way that I spoke and laughed. Silly, I know but whoever said that words don't hurt straight up lied to me and tried to "sike" my mind from believing the truth. Well the truth is, that I am a human and I have emotions at feel just like any other person. And guess what? Words do hurt! They hurt worse than someone dragging me on the floor, to be honest. The Bible says that words can speak either life or death into someone life. 

But then, I realized something. That I will not be silenced. Especially when it concerns who I am and who I am becoming.

One day, I had a moment that I did not feel like myself. I was not joyful I did not feel happy, I just felt like blah. I literally took a moment and thought about something so silly that it made me laugh. I continued to laugh. Continued to laugh at what seemed like nothing until I felt the energy rise from the depths of my soul because I was longing for that joy that I knew that I had inside of myself. I was not going to be silenced. 

In the end of the day I realized it was not what other people said to me or about me,  yet I was hindering myself all along. I was allowing myself to be silenced. I was my own limitation. I tell people all of the time that the only thing limiting you is you. No one can put words in your mind unless you allow them to stay in your mind and no one can silence you unless you choose to be silenced. It is all a choice, and be the choice you choose for yourself.

Be encouraged lovely! Comment below and share.

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XOXO, Ericka Warnita

I Didn't Know How To Pray

Baby: "Goo goo, gaa gaa"

You: "Yes, I know, you see her over there doing God knows what. I know you agree with me. She loos crazy, right?"

This past week we reflected on #NationalDayOfPrayer and it made me reflect on my own prayer life. Oh man, I have so much to pray for. I have a lot of prayers that are deep inside of my heart but instead of talking about that I would like to  reflect back to when I didn't know how to pray or I acted too bashful for prayer. My best friend would call me everyday to pray before the day starts and everyday when he would ask me if I wanted to pray you know what I would say?... Nothing. It was not until I challenged myself to pray that I began to pray with confidence.

My prayers started off small and simple. They may have even seemed stupid but I said them as if I was the most eloquent person in the world but it was the most simplistic prayer. I was like a baby learning its first words. It takes a lot of babbling and "goo goo gaa gaa" before the baby begins to speak complete sentences. But with every babbling noise that comes out of a babies mouth I bet no matter what weird noises you hear you have the tendency to talk back to that baby, right? Wouldn't you say that this is true when we think about our prayer life with God? No matter what you pray and how small it seems He hears every prayer, even the small simple ones. God hears your every word and knows your deepest desires. Did you know God rather shorter prayers than long drawn out prayers that repeat itself over and over again. Now, I am not saying that praying for a long time is not okay but the Bible says and when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what your need before you ask him - Matthew 6:7-8. This is verse is stating that e should not be like those who say many words because they are trying to be heard by God as if God does not hear them. Yet, God knows your prayer before you pray it. With praying comes am intimate relationship with God. Instead of always assuming God knows all of my desires without talking to Him, I must always talk to Him in order to build an authentic relationship with Him. You must talk to Him in order to build an authentic relationship with Him.

Don't let people make you feel inferior, better yet, don't trick yourself into thinking you are inferior in your prayer life. God says not to let anyone look down upon you because you are young, or in this case, inexperienced in prayer, but be the example for the believers in speech , in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity - 1 Timothy 4:12. So even if you do feel too young to pray or too simple in your prayer life God says not to believe that. Yet, continue to be an example for all to see. 

God hears your every word and knows your deepest desires.

XOXO, Ericka Warnita

My Sacrifice Not To Compromise Myself

Not many people know but I am constantly getting inboxed from people who want me to model for them but I am constantly turning them down. Most people would look at me and say something like, "Girl you must have lost your mind! That is money, honey! Just because you are wearing no clothes in one picture doesn't mean anything. It does not define you." Yes, some people would think that it is not a big deal to be nude infront of a camera but for me it is not something that I want to stand for. And though I am a strong believer that everything that you do DOES NOT, may I repeat, does not define you other peoples judgmental opinions beg to differ. For example, when I see things like people bashing someone as beautiful as Meagan Good because of something she wore (watch the link)...I think I have proven my point. I will just look at you with stupidity when you say it doesn't matter because for many people it does. People will be people regardless of what you say or how you act. Someone will judge, and others will talk negatively about you and toward you. It happens but I won't be a victim of something that I can prevent from happening with the wisdom that I already have.

Besides the fact that people judge, (which never bothers me unless it is coming from those closest to me) I strongly believe that I should dress in a way that highlights every feature about me that has nothing to necessarily do with my body. Wearing clothes that make me feel confident, but also, clothes that make me feel like my mind controls my body and not my body controlling my mind. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't mind embracing your body and wearing clothes that show those beautiful curves of yours. I love girls and women who embrace themselves. Hello!!! You are talking to the girl who has had no curves for like forever and was compared to a pencil in the "body shape" comparison charts. I've had to learn to embrace my curves even the ones I don't have. Lol! Like really! Who wants to be introduced as a pencil. At least, Queens with pear, apple or coke bottle shapes taste good and are scrumptious! *shrugs shoulders* Just saying.

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Nontheless, in this modeling world and being in the public eye I decided that I am not going to compromise myself with nudity, bare skin or clothes that only show my body and not the product that is being promoted. Again most people would think I am trippen but it is a standard that I have made for myself in this industry and will stick to it. I want to encourage other models, aspiring modeling and any young ladies to not compromise what you feel. If you feel like you should not do something or wear something but you are just doing it for reasons like money, status or acceptance, it is okay to say no. It really is okay to say no. I am telling you now that it is not worth it. Trust me! I have been there and done that. It is not worth it!

Always stay true to yourself Queen.

XOXO, EW

When He says move, you move JUST LIKE THAT... *Ludacris Voice*

When being honest means that you have to hurt somebody in the process is the hardest pill to swallow for me. I never thought that living my life sometimes means that helping one person can in turn hurt others in the process. Doesn't make sense to me when I repeat the statement in my head but I have seen it play out over and over in my life and with others around me. I have had to move away from a friendships because of its toxicity in order to salvage my life. I've also had to be move in certain directions that made no sense to almost everyone in my life but because I knew I was being guided by God I had to stick with my gut and block out the conflicting noise. Nonetheless, regardless of the circumstances, I have seen glory stand the test of time.

 Are you talking to me?! 

Are you talking to me?! 

So, when God says to move, you must move right? A lot of times we might ask something like, “are you talking to me?!” It is not always as easy as it sounds, to move when God tells you to move. There is always going to be road blocks in the way. You will never go down a "perfect" road that doesn't have an ounce of imperfection. Sometimes, I think as Christians it can be so easy to think that once we get that "quick fix" of salvation from God then we are perfect. Ohhhhh no, how wrong are we to assume perfection in this walk with God. We strive for perfection but this walk is not perfect.

As a young lady in my 20s, it has not been the easiest to make my own decisions especially because I've always relied on my loved ones to understand my path for me and to guide me down that path. I have found out it doesn't necessarily work that way anymore. Though I still look to my family for guidance, there are some things that they will never be able fully guide me through. When I am at a low capacity of comprehension and my loved ones don't quite understand the positioning on my path I have to trust that God is guiding me even in my doubt and uncertainty.

This past year I have had to make some tough decisions. Decisions like, overlooking actions and words from certain people or being kind to someone that I felt didn't deserve my kindness and compassion. I had to continue to show them grace and mercy. Most people wouldn't have second guessed their feelings. Instead, they would have allowed anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness to creep into their souls. But who would I be if I did that? Would I be a follower of Christ if I did? God says that we are to reconcile with others meaning that we are to set our pride aside and love one another even if that means the other person won't accept a friendship. Matthew 5:23-24; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21

I know that it is easy to lead with your feelings and not with what God tells you to do. However, you will be better off by moving in the direction of love, compassion and forgiveness instead of unforgiveness, bitterness and anger. You have the choice to live "unbothered" and peaceful or with a chip on you shoulder. You choose?

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Comment below and tell me your thoughts. Tell me about a time that you had to follow what God said for you to do but somebody did not trust or understand your decision. Despite the doubt, God prevailed in your life anyhow.

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XOXO, EW

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